I Desire to be Loved, but in a Certain Way

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I Desire to be Loved, but in a Certain Way

All of us have been blessed to have been entrusted with people in our lives whether it be our family, friends, acquaintances, even those we encounter briefly on a daily basis. We are called to love in every situation, but do we take the time to ask ourselves how our own parents, brother, sister, or friend desires to be loved? Do we understand that every human being is precious and unique and that the way we are accustomed to loving others may not always be perceived in the same light? Do we allow ourselves the opportunity to learn how God wants us to love others in a more radical way, in the manner they desire to be loved?

We have the ability to intentionally love others in a profound manner through three important ways:

1) Prayer: It is important that we ask God how He sees the people in our lives and ask Him to grant us the grace to love these people as they need to be loved. We must ask the Lord to show us how He want us to grow to love them. It is imperative that we present our relationships with others to God. When we allow Him to lead us in our relationships we can trust that He will give us the strength to love others despite any difficulties.

2) Communication: A wise friend of mine told me to never be afraid to over communicate, of course one must have prudence in every given situation. It is important to recognize the way we come across in a situation by the words we say and how we execute what we say. We must be charitable, sensitive, and delicate in how we approach others especially during times of conflict. Through the use of edifying communication we learn how to understand other people better by entering into their own perspective. This can be accomplished through listening and being willing to learn from others.

3) Persistence: Time and time again we will fail at loving others, but we must never give up. It is in the tough times that God is calling us in a radical way to come outside ourselves and will the good of the other. It is important that in times of desolation, where we are not able to fully see the individual for who they are, that we take the time to remind ourselves of the good they have within them. Ultimately, we need to allot time to ask ourselves how God sees this individual. When we view people from the lense of our God we can then continually strive to love them as they deserve.

If we apply these three actions in our lives, we will grow to recognize how to love the people entrusted to us better but most importantly we begin to love the way God loves.

Jesse Orenge
Jesse Orenge
Jesse Orenge is a 2017 graduate of the University of Minnesota-Duluth with a BS in Biology. He grew up in Minnesota spending time with his family and friends, enjoying summers on Lake Minnetonka and indulging in any sporting event he could get his hands on. Jesse learned about CP at the young adult conference, SEEK where he met a fellow missionary Joshua. He is highly interested in the teachings of Saint John Paul II and was ecstatic that the mission of the CP aligned with Saint John Paul's teachings leading to a desire to want to be involved with CP in some capacity. This led to an eventual yes to the Lord to serve Him as a CP missionary. "Love means to will the good of the other. We live in a society that lives in opposition to this truth and it is necessary that this truth that is love be made known and depicted through actions, thoughts, and words. For this reason, he desires to reveal to his fellow brothers and sisters in Christ the unconditional love of our Lord.